AU Holidays http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com What People talks about Holiday in Australia Sat, 19 Dec 2009 14:22:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Anxiety? Tips on dealing with it? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/anxiety-tips-on-dealing-with-it/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/anxiety-tips-on-dealing-with-it/#comments Sat, 19 Dec 2009 14:22:10 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/anxiety-tips-on-dealing-with-it/ Hello everyone! Im sorry for ranting, or rambling, but i’m a hypochondriac and these past 6 weeks, ever since I have had my tmj- I think that the slightest pain is something drastic. I’ve had anxiety always, but since I’ve had tmj it’s has gotton worse. I worry that something that i’ll never get better from tmj, and then i worry about stupid things like my eyesight going bad. it didn’t really click to me that this was my anxiety, until today. My stomach has been filled with butterflies and has been churning and i can feel my heart beating/stomach. I notice when i walk, or eat- take me mind of it, these feelings go away, however when i sit by myself, i start to feel them again. I try to make myself calm, saying its only anxiety, but then i worry that something else could be causing is and i could be dying. truely, i don’t believe i need to seek proffessional help, as I know once the school holidays are over, my mind will be focused on school work, not my phantom diseases. I was just wondering, whether anyone has any tips on how to overcome these symptoms? Also, when do they go away? lol im starting to worry that they have been happening to long. ahh i need to stop worrying haha. thank you for reading this. any help is appreciated. thank you!!

all the best =)

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/anxiety-tips-on-dealing-with-it/feed/ 3 What’s the deal? Education and recognition of religions other than Christianity in the West? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/whats-the-deal-education-and-recognition-of-religions-other-than-christianity-in-the-west/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/whats-the-deal-education-and-recognition-of-religions-other-than-christianity-in-the-west/#comments Sat, 19 Dec 2009 06:32:29 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/whats-the-deal-education-and-recognition-of-religions-other-than-christianity-in-the-west/ I have no problem with Christianity being taught (in an objective way) and recognised (ie. public holidays, etc.) in our Western society, but what do you think of the fact that, despite the huge numbers of immigrants and people with different religions or forms of spirituality who live in the Western world, Christianity always takes priority?

For example, I live in Australia, and just recently in the news there has been a push by Muslims to have some of their holy days recognised by public holidays. I doubt it will happen, but there definitely seems to be a need for it.

It just seems like, if you don’t adhere to some form of Christianity or other, that your belief system is second-rate. It will get little recognition and it will not be taught in schools, etc.

I do not want to see answers telling me that Islam does the same thing in the Middle East, because I do not live in the Middle East and I am specifically asking about the West, which prides itself on its diversity and tolerance.
Actually, Australia was colonised by Christians who came from England, killing many Aborigines as they went, forcing others to convert from their ancient, spiritual belief systems. England is a Christian nation, not Australia.

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/whats-the-deal-education-and-recognition-of-religions-other-than-christianity-in-the-west/feed/ 12 Why is my 4 year old bringing me undone? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-my-4-year-old-bringing-me-undone/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-my-4-year-old-bringing-me-undone/#comments Fri, 18 Dec 2009 22:21:26 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-my-4-year-old-bringing-me-undone/ My 4 year old girl is very disobedent. She does nothing I ask her to. I started with the naughty mat, to no avail; along with taking toys away etc. Now EVERYTHING goes in the bin. She has next to no clothes, and no toys, but doesn’t care as she just plays with her brother’s things. I don’t understand where I have gone wrong. I wash her mouth with soap, her boobs are deformed from pulling her nipples all the time, and she is quite happy to show anyone her “fanny”.Daycare says she is unhelpful at picking things up, and she likes to talk. She has also started playing up for our Nanny. I am pulling my hair out. I don’t know where I have gone wrong! When she is good, I try to make a big deal of it, so she will like the attention and do it more often. She has brought my husband undone too. I just want to be able to get throgh one day without all the drama.
If anyone can give me some alternitives for punishment, or rewards, I am willing to try almost anything.
This week I am trying the sticker chart. Good job – sticker. 5 stickers at the end of the day, small treat. 35 stickers by end of week – small present.
I am also seriouslly considering giving up full time work, as it maybe me not being a good mother. Being there for her! But then the house goes, the holidays, weekends away, some sports for the kids etc. And that’s them What about us? AGHHHHHHHHHHH

(Why don’t I feel any better after having this whinge? lol)
Thanks Mummy’s.
Thanks Cajundud. That was the first time I have laughed all day, and it is 12.18am here!

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-my-4-year-old-bringing-me-undone/feed/ 6 A name that suits the book.? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/a-name-that-suits-the-book/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/a-name-that-suits-the-book/#comments Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:57:08 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/a-name-that-suits-the-book/ this book is about a young girl who is forced to move to a new country thanks to her father’s buisness. she almost refuses to go but is forced to. once taken away from her home country, she finds herdelf living in a new and totallt different world compared to the one she grew up in. no friends, no nothing for a couple of weeks. the girl is forced to change who she is once she starts at her new school. where things arent done the way she’s used to them being. after just a couple of weeks the girl has had enough of all the conflicts, she finds herself hiding out in the nurse’s office claming that she’s sick during math class, and is faking that she is loving life here to save her parents the stress. then she has a mental breakdown, all the stress is too much, not only that, but the girl is also begining to deal with puberty. she is sent off to coucelours and begins to get her life on track with the help from out-of-school-friends, the locals in the home area. when the summer holidays arrive, she spends more time with the locals who work next to her house in the famous phu gia complex. slowly she is turning into a woman, changing from the loud mouth kid who humors but mostly disturbs her friends, to a young woman.
her life is almost compleatly back on track, when a sudden change comes. she finds herself falling for the life-gaurd(one of the local friends) as she spends more time with him and as they learn about the world together.
but its all wrong, it’s no allowed, its against the law, both laws from both countries. he’s too old, she’s too young. they try to live without eachother but they soon give up.
they face so many conflicts in the full year and a half they date.
but their lov i like no other, htey keep it a secret but it slowly leakes out. eventually they didnt care about the people around them knowing, they wanted to show eachother off to the whole world, there only concern is the police and her parents.
breaking news come out they almost distroyes the girl. “were mving back to australia in december” her father announced over the dinner table. once she finished eating she raced over to him and told him. 3 minutes later, while tears were in both his eye’s and hers he asked her to marry him. she accepted. once she was they leagal age they would be married. but there are so many complications that they dont have time for. they cant stand being seperated, and are with achother whenever they can be. but then the move is on the horizon. the question is will they both make it? is their realation ship strong enough, will the police discover, will her parents? will she lose her soul mate?

**** i know that it sound wierd at the moment, i’m too lazy to type the details right now. but do you think that this would be somthing good to write about and publish? what would be a good title?

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/a-name-that-suits-the-book/feed/ 1 Boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue for no real reason!!!!!!!!!!? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/boyfriend-broke-up-with-me-out-of-the-blue-for-no-real-reason/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/boyfriend-broke-up-with-me-out-of-the-blue-for-no-real-reason/#comments Fri, 18 Dec 2009 07:09:03 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/boyfriend-broke-up-with-me-out-of-the-blue-for-no-real-reason/ I have been dating this guy 4 about 3 mths at first I was sceptical of jumpin into a relationship b/c I had just got out of a bad relationship of 3 yrs. But, I just decided 2 go for it. He met my entire family and I met his. We just spent the holidays together and everything about our relationship is great. He is a really positive, goal-oriented, loving person and I really like him a lot. But he does have a son with someone else. Yesterday, he broke up with me because he said he’s afraid of commitment b/c the last lady he dealt wit tried to trap him with a child and used him etc. and b/c he feels guilty when he spends time with me b/c he feels like he should be spending it with his son. He says hes overwhelmed wit work too and that he wants to still be apart of my life but hes not sure about a relationship but that we would be on a break/friends so he can think about everything and get his priorities straight. I dont want to lose him n I dont want 2 jus b his friend. What should I do?

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/boyfriend-broke-up-with-me-out-of-the-blue-for-no-real-reason/feed/ 32 did i do the right thing? My nan caused me to have a panic attack in the mid on sydney? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/did-i-do-the-right-thing-my-nan-caused-me-to-have-a-panic-attack-in-the-mid-on-sydney/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/did-i-do-the-right-thing-my-nan-caused-me-to-have-a-panic-attack-in-the-mid-on-sydney/#comments Thu, 17 Dec 2009 22:45:53 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/did-i-do-the-right-thing-my-nan-caused-me-to-have-a-panic-attack-in-the-mid-on-sydney/ My nan caused me to have a panic attack in the mid on sydney…

It has caused a massive rift in my family

to cut the story short i was in the bad books because i stuck up for my mum and aunt (both her fdaughters) when she had a go at them for no reason.

Yes!! I did yell but only because she felt me having a panic attack wasnt a big deal

I LOVE HER but she has upset me so much

i havent spoken to her since march

her last words to me was DON”T YELL AT ME!!!
which was her reply to me yelling from the bottom f the stairs saying i cant leave like this ( i leave in perth was there on holidays)

my bday card had two words jessica and nan (she only sent it coz
she felt she had to) i didnt even get a christmas card this hyear

when i set her a sms saying happy bday my sis gets one saying hmm(because she ddnt send one)

I have been in tears at school and every second night

what should i do? did i do the right thing?
please i need help do i contacter her? (she hasnt bothered)

just leave it?
im 16 by the way

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Im a boy and I’m 18
Its like disturbing/violent/stupid/crazy thoughts that i keep getting in my head.
I take pills for it, it kinda helps but its definetly not fixing the problem.
The thoughts range from dumb/stupid to crazy/violent, here are some examples:
-Im walking down the road and a car is coming down the road, i get a really stong thout about what if i jumped out infront of it
-im in the kitchen and there is a knife and i cant get the thought of out of my head of me grabbing the knife and stabing either myself or someone else
-i could be walking across a overpass and i cant get the thought of jumping off the overpass out of my head
- i hate being the only one awake at home ( like after everyone else has gone to sleep) because i get the thought that i would do somthing
- since getting ocd, one day when i was on holidays to my fathers house in south america and well he has a gun( they are kinda legal ova ther) anyway he said come take some shots with it. i had shot it before i had ocd and i had thought it was kind of fun( what kind of kid doesnt like shooting…) any way i didnt want to but i said yes because then my dad would wonder why i had suddenly stopped liking guns. when i shot it i had the biggest crazy thoughts of imagine if i turned around and shot my dad. so i quickly aimed at a tree and and shot and handed it back to my father as quickly as i could. I hate being around guns, my dad leaves his gun out on his desk or somthing sometimes and if im sitting near i have to go to another room and find somthing else to do because of the thoughts
- i would never have a job that involes weapons or anything dangourous like driving
- i dont want to drive so i havnt got my licence. if i was driving i would get those crazy thoughts in my head
i would never choose to do anything that involed a possible danger to myslef or someone else
-then there is the stupid ones like i could be holding a cup or plate and i get the thought of just releasing it
- if im in class i get the thought of what if i suddenly screamed or acted crazy..
- if im at a airport i just get the thought the im for example hiding somthing like drugs and I in a way become nervous and swallow. I know it sounds crazy but thats just how it is. its like i know that the costoms or whateva suspect me and its like i “know” im hiding somthing in a weird way…the net result is that if im at a airport or bank or somthing i get nervous

And then there is a slightly diffrennt kind of thought. its like if i see a crime show or for example a show about a killer or sumthing, i the strong thought that what if i turn into one of them.
It has kinda stopped me from trying to be in a relationship, i would think that what girl would deserve me, someone that has these crazy thoughts going through their head. I would get the thoght that im some kinda of crazy “monster” and i shouldnt go and try to get a girlfreind because i dont deserve one.
I dont think i would ever want to marry and i dont see myself ever having kids because i dont think anyone really deserves to have me in their family and i get crazy thoughts sometimes if im with some one thats defenceless( i know how this sounds) like a baby

I dont watch horror/crime/violent movies much cause it makes me get even more thoughts.

I started getting these thoughts one day almost two years ago. i had never gotten it before even mildly. I remember i was cutting an orange with a sharp knife and someone was sitting close to me. i got the thought of”what if i stabbed them ” in my mind. it was so bad and disturbing that i had to leave the room.
Since then not a day goes by that i dont have these thoughts in some way,shape or form.
I hate getting these thoughts so after about six months i went to the doctor and explained some of it and i was given the presciption for paroxetine 20mg, i take one a day. i have told my family but not in much detail…just that i get disturbing stupid thoughts
i hav had it for almost two years, it definetly effects my life, social life and pretty much everything with me

Does anyone have this kind of problem, had this kinda problem or knows someone that does?
Do you know how it can be fixed????
Do you know anyone that has recovered from it COMPLEATLY?
And if there any any people that hav recovered, is it like you still get the thoughts but you know how to deal with them or do they kind of just never occur ( like your brain just kinda blocks them)
Just to note I have never acted on one of these thoughts even a stupid one, and i hope and am determined that i never do.
Thanks for reading this and would appreciate any feedback

thank you so much

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/ocd-questionplease-help/feed/ 2 What should i do about my depression and tell me if u think it all in my head…? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/what-should-i-do-about-my-depression-and-tell-me-if-u-think-it-all-in-my-head/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/what-should-i-do-about-my-depression-and-tell-me-if-u-think-it-all-in-my-head/#comments Thu, 17 Dec 2009 06:38:43 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/what-should-i-do-about-my-depression-and-tell-me-if-u-think-it-all-in-my-head/ ok this is kind of hard to explain but ill try…..

im going to be completely honest and not worry about embarressment because i dont know any of you. ok i am 14 and i have an extremely happy life, plenty of friends, a really hot loving boyfriend who is a year older than me by the way, and my family loves me. but at the start off the christmas holidays (a little over 2 months ago now) i had this thing happen to me where i needed to pee but it would not come out until a while. for the next 4 weeks i was absolutely severely depressed and i cried every day because i went to the doctors 5 times and they didnt no what was wrong. then it went away and i was happy happy happy! but then the doctor mentioned that i have 1 boob bigger than the other so that made me depressed again and i wondered if my left boob will ever grow. so i asked my mum and she it was completely normal and they will even out. so i was happy again. then (i straighten my hair by the way) i thought my hair was falling out because i straighten it so much and once again i was depressed. then i went to the hairdressers and he told me it was normal. then a little while ago i swallowed air to burp it out again and it did not come out. so the next 5 days i went with the feeling of needing to burp not knowing if it was my imagination or not because when my mind was off it i couldnt feel it. then it went away and i realised that the labia that was always long but never relly bothered me became uncomfortable and i was depressed again. then i realised that it was because i got my period that it bloated a bit so it went down and i was happy. but guess what, straight after the labia thing i felt the feeling of burp again and i still feel it and it has been 4 days since it came back again. i think its all in my head like its making me want to believe that there is something wrong with me. because what a coincidence that it would be that as soon as i got over one problem another one would appear, especially the burping one but i cant be sure….

how can i deal with it because i been very depressed the last 2 months? plz anser and sorry about the length of my question.

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/what-should-i-do-about-my-depression-and-tell-me-if-u-think-it-all-in-my-head/feed/ 2 Trouble with in-laws staying at our house? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/trouble-with-in-laws-staying-at-our-house/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/trouble-with-in-laws-staying-at-our-house/#comments Thu, 17 Dec 2009 00:09:18 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/trouble-with-in-laws-staying-at-our-house/ My in-laws live interstate. They chose to move away from our city as their two sons were not married and she wanted to be with her sisters. They visit twice a year and stay for weeks. Both my husband and his brother have small houses and although they think they are not getting in the way in my house there is stuff everywhere that I step over, the bathroom is dirty and I have to be polite and talk to them from morning till night. She washes up and tidies but it is just the general having guests in my face. It makes me not sleep and is very tiring. I am a person that likes my solitude and routine and for years have put up with having them stay, although each year I say less time that they can and it is now down to 3 nights only. I feel guilty and have told my husband that he must cater to them and if he wants to see them more to visit them at his brothers. This causes tension between us. I am dealing with an illness and I told my husband if he wants them to stay he had to do everything and I needed my space. They knew that I had the illness yet they still stayed and hung around putting pressure on me to organise things and go places as my husband didn’t. They have left now, and I am drained and fighting with my husband. It is not fair. We did discuss that they stay in a hotel or move back to the city but they say they cannot afford it and only want to live in a house. Now they tell me they are going to give my husbands brother $40 per week so that my niece can go to preschool as his wife thinks that the fees are too expensive, but my brother in law spends all his money on top quality cameras and household goods which they know about as well. Why can’t they save and spend the money on a hotel for a few weeks and then I can enjoy their visit more? I feel really trapped between my husband and his family and it is getting me down. My husband doesn’t understand. Visiting them is a big trip and we run a home business and holidays are a rare thing. Help!

]]> http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/trouble-with-in-laws-staying-at-our-house/feed/ 1 Why is rent and living cost so expensive? http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-rent-and-living-cost-so-expensive/ http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-rent-and-living-cost-so-expensive/#comments Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:22:03 +0000 Admin http://au.holidays.cheap.estdeals.com/why-is-rent-and-living-cost-so-expensive/ I live in Australia, and there is no way at being able to afford to rent on your own with a retail, hospitality or similar wage the only way is to find the cheapest place ever with a few rooms or more and share….and it seems almost every person you get in try to rip you off and complain abt eexpense…and you end up paying for most of the rent and bills. I absolutely hate living with other people but it has to be done. I will be undertaking a baker apprenticeship soon so im going have to deal with it but after that i will only be earning around $500 and the cheapest place to rent would be $250 to live alone and then with all the other expenses it just seems impossible to be able to live with that amount… I shouldnt be complaining when there are people worse off….but i just dont understand how people can afford to buy cars, furniture and go on holidays…. and why does rent have to be so much?

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