Right now Summer holidays are about to begin(yay) and i am helping my brother who is 10 years old in year 5 to pass the selective high school test D: which is held in March. My mother is extremely desperate to get him into a selective school xD us being an azn family (not being racist) and has enrolled him into multiple coaching centres. he goes to 3 each week. these giv him a test every week and we get the results the following week. from the beginning of the year to the end, he has gone from average to almost the last. i now know my brother absolutely loathes study and does not pay attention on these coaching classes. We do not know how to motivate him 
also we hav banned him from the computer OR the ps2 and wii console because he absolutely loves these things and spends way too much time on them. i reckon he’s distracted by these things.when we hid the wii he cried for a whole day. we have already tried to motivate him by saying that we’ll buy a ps3 if he gets into a selective school(LOL) but he still refuses to listen in class. he is also overweight – 70kg. i know that is ALOT. he is amazingly ROUND xD but we’ll deal with that after he does the test. he has no room of his own, he sleeps in a bunk bed with me so normally he would do his hw on the kitchen table. he doesnt have a good relationship with our father either >_> anyways, our mother also givs him lots of hw from textbooks she buys herself. so he does hw from school(EASY), hw from coaching(procrastinates ALOT) and hw from parents(extremely reluctant to do). anyway, my mum will buy me a supercomputer if i help my bro into a selective school so IF YOU HAVE BOTHERED TO READ UP TO HERE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO MOTIVATE HIM? HOW CAN I MAKE HIM LISTEN IN THOSE COACHING CLASSES? IS THE EXTRA WORK GIVEN BY MY MOTHER NECESSARY? WHAT CAN I, THE 14 YEAR OLD BRO DO TO IMPROVE HIS AMAZINGLY HORRIBLE AND LAZY ATTITUDE TOWARDS STUDY? IN 3 MONTHS!!
oh yea and i added the part about him being fat because i heard it interferes with studying o.O also maybe the fact that he doesnt like our father has something to do with it o.o
o yea and he needs help especially on his maths. also, he just rushes his hw so that he can get his rest fast ==
ahaha LOL!! ME! i am the 14 year old kid with ‘hormonal and swaying emotions’! xD the kid asking the question is the 14 year old. the one i am TALKING ABOUT IS MA 10 YEAR OLD BROOO
i’m not exactly ‘using’ him xD
but it is a pretty neat comp xD
Help for Selective High School Test?
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wow…he is only ten years old!!! i say stop pressuring him. to much pressure will defiantly not make him learn more, and extra work wont either. if the school work i to easy, and hes there for 6 hours a day, then maybe that’s why hes not paying attention to what your mother gives him. if you home school him for the next three months until that test maybe he will do that work. or maybe, you could make him skip a grade if he is so smart. I am sorry but i think this is way to much pressure you are putting on a young boy. school, parent homework, and extra classes? your life doesn’t have to Absolutely revolve around school. a large portion, but Friends and family always come first
but yeah i know when i think to much i cant learn, so maybe cut back on all the work and he will be happier, and learn more!
Seems kinda wrong that you’re only using your brother for a computer.
LOL. fat doesn’t interfere with studies…its a result of sitting down for too long …it can come from too much tv time or too much homework time.
As far as motivation goes.. sounds like your bro is already burned out.
He obviously doesn’t care about the benefits of getting into one of these better schools.
There are several ways to deal with your brother.
First off the coaching is going to have to go. Coaching is not the issue.. its life style.
He’s 14..hormonal and emotional time in a kids life. Your perception of him will matter a lot…as will your parents. .. (teens hate their parents off and on normally)
taking the game consoles away and the tv was a good thing…
however since he probably got use to playing them and not doing much else .. you need to show him what to fill his time with..
first give him a small project..that he can do and will feel great about..
go to a hobby store.. you can incorporate the things he suppose to exhibit on his tests with the projects..
Take your brother out to places…museum trips or historical places followed by something fun and active.
Be loving encouraging, but be firm. Take a look at his friends.. are the a good crowd.. or are they contributing to his couch potato-esque characteristics..?
Put him on study schedule, spend family time with him, and give him some time to just be himself.
Talk to him.. ask what does he want to do now and in the future. How does he plan to support himself when he becomes old enough and his parents expect him to support himself…ask him to think about.. day dream.. what ever. visualize it.. what or how will he accomplish his lifestyle..and what will be his plan for doing it…
Keep in mind.. he may not be lazy..but burned out..it is possible to do that to a kid.
Watch him see what he likes to do and use the opportunities as rewards for desired behavior..
since you say you have a wii.. get the sports games and reward him with a choice of playing the sports game for an hour a day…
Go bike riding or walking with him and be a listener..most of the time.. let him talk about this anger for his dad.. with out judging him.. maturity will help correct his thoughts if they are unnatural.. and encouragement and being a good rolemodel will help him along as well.
Good luck!
changing his lifestyle and adding beneficial activity(he enjoys) will help him passively lose weight..forcing him to exercise will do nothing but make him rebel more..
help him explore more different things, explore real games, help him have more sociable situations, get him involved in new things..with the family.. he will act like he doesn’t like it but..you will be helping him expand his mind, be tolerant, inquisitive, and will help strengthen skills he needs to complete complex and simple assignments.
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